Mum Problem...Kind of urgent...?

okay the first thing you have to do is sit and have a talk with your mom. Do this as calmly as possible because one part of being 'grown up' is being able to talk to someone about a touchy subject without having a tantrum if you dont like what you hear (not saying you do but you are 14). So sit with her and explain to her that you feel you cannot grow socially with all the restrictions that she has placed upon you. Next you will tell her to give you a chance to prove to her that you are responsible enough to be able to follow her rules and guidelines even when she is out of sight (ex: being home when she asks you to be. not going to certain areas of town etc) Having said this you have to also understand that if she should grant you these permissions you still have to follow the conditions she sets (ex she says you can go to the park until 5 but you decide to go galavanting around the mall until then. this WILL NOT help you to make her feel comfortable about her decisions if you cant follow a simple rule. Its all about gaining her trust and its up to you to deliver that) Another thing is she is still your legal guardian and regardless of what she decides to do you should respect her decision because not only will you be an adult before you know it but she just really cares about you and doesn't want anything to happen to you. Be nice to your mom and show her you appreciate her.